Evansing – Heart of the Irish Kingdom
Recently as I sat in my car, I noticed a rabbit running across the road and make it almost across when it stopped. It then turned around and went back from where it had come just as a car came and narrowly missed hitting it. The rabbit, after returning to where it had started, turned around and crossed the road again. For some moments it ran around in a zigzag way, not making any progress in any particular direction.
I pondered what I witnessed. I thought how many times we as people live life in a state of frenzied activity, moving here and there in a constant state of fear with no clear sense of direction. As long as we stay busy, we feel comforted by the motion. We are so conditioned by this state we aren’t even aware of the fear moving us. We ask someone how they are doing, and they say busy as though that is a meaningful answer to such a question. Fear distorts one’s thinking about self and life. It blocks the ability to evaluate what truly matters. We must stop and think of what is important in our life, for even the seeming insignificant choices can affect the rest of our life.
Edwin in Evansing had to deal with such a situation. He had started out on a journey to a new life when he discovered an enemy force invading their kingdom. Edwin ran to the closest village to warn them of the danger. At first the chieftain responded well, but first he wanted scouts to discover the location of the enemy. They came back with the report of the invaders heading away from them toward another village. Edwin told the chieftain they needed to help the other villagers. The chieftain did not want to, for he didn’t want to endanger his village. Fear and indifference to others blocked his ability to make the right choice. The chieftain and his people got angry with Edwin when he persisted in asking them to help. So Edwin left.
Now he needed to decide his next move. Should he just keep merrily on his way and forget about the people in the path of the invaders? Should he respond like the chieftain who exercised action and then ended up doing nothing? In both cases they could feel good about demonstrating motion and busyness. However, Edwin stopped to consider the best choice in this circumstance.
He could not in good conscience abandon the people in the path of the marauding army. Edwin pursued the invaders and found a vantage point where he kept hidden. He noticed the enemy soldiers appeared very confident. This piqued his confidence. He overheard them mention they had with them a well known and feared Druid priest. His magical power gave them assurance they would win. Edwin decided he could do something about that. As he waited, he saw the one they referred to. He put an arrow in his bow and drew it back. He released it right into the priest’s heart, who dropped dead. The troops stopped and howled in dismay. They began pursuing in the direction from where they believed the arrow had been shot. The chase began. As it got desperate for Edwin, he experienced a most unusual miraculous rescue.
While leaving the area he noticed the invading force moving down the road to the villagers who had refused to help their countrymen. They would now experience the fruit of their indifference. They had not considered the consequences of their choice.
Edwin and the recalcitrant chieftain both had decided affecting the rest of their lives. Edwin’s led to a great opportunity and a brand-new life. The chieftain’s choice resulted in the very thing he wanted to avoid, the destruction of his village.
Making right choices in life requires a sense of direction. Where do we want to go? Where do we want to end up? Have we stopped to consider what keeps us going? Have we identified fears in our life? How are they affecting us? Do they make us feel like we need to keep in motion even when no clear sense of where it takes us? It is important to know why we do what we do. No one intentionally lives life to end up in a bad place.
Set aside time to sit and ponder where you are going and whether you would like it when you arrive. Consider whether your activity is moving you forward or are you zigzagging here and there with no genuine progress.
Evansing – Heart of the Irish Kingdom
Recently I had backed out of my garage and pressed on the garage door closer. Nothing happened. I kept it pressed down as sometimes that is what is necessary to close it. Still nothing happened. I went into the garage and pressed the button there. Once again the door did not close. I looked all around in the area where the door comes down and could not see anything that would affect the door sensor. Then I looked down to the exact line where the door would land. There I noticed a little leaf. I don’t think I seriously thought it would keep the door from closing but I kicked it out of the way. Then I went to my car and clicked the door closer and it closed with no problem.
As I drove away, I started saying to myself, “Little resentment, little bitterness, little unforgiveness.” I repeated it over a few times and then a person came to mind. Someone I care about. As I pondered why they came to mind I realized I had harbored some resentment, some bitterness and unforgiveness. They weren’t big items, just enough to create some distancing and agitation in the relationship. It doesn’t take much to build little walls with others. Our feelers can be incredibly sensitive to little hurts and perceived slights. A relationship can be overwhelmingly good in many ways and yet those little unresolved issues produce an inordinate amount of harassment. They rob us of the full measure of what is available to us in that relationship.
Sometimes we aren’t even aware there is a problem. We know something isn’t quite right. In one sense we look for what could be the issue. Nothing significant comes to mind. Yes, sometimes a certain irritating memory shows up, but it’s not a big deal. Or perhaps a current agitation shows up in how we perceive being treated by that person. We may well wrestle with the issue a bit and then let it lie where it is. It seems of no real consequence after all it is only a little leaf.
Often there are multiple little leaves allowed to build up in a relationship. If we don’t start sweeping them away and out, they can cripple a relationship. Our relationships with loved ones and other key people represent a wealth of experiences that enrichen our lives. To lose them over petty resentments and perceived slights is tragic and unnecessary.
Hanging onto a little leaf to the destruction of an important relationship is like the divorcing couple spending all their assets on legal fees because its “the principle of the thing.” We get so wrapped up with our “rights” being violated that we lose sight of the long-term value of the relationship.
Our most valued relationships will frequently be the most tested. A willingness to surrender our rights will often be required of us. Mature individuals can do this. They will overlook the slights and offenses and forgive as is necessary. Immature persons will not. They think they cannot, but really, they choose not to surrender, overlook and forgive. After all they have ‘rights’.
Edwin, in Evansing, needed to forgive his uncle of harsh treatment he received as a boy. Percival his mentor helped him with the process of forgiveness. In Edwin’s case it was not a little leaf. It was a whole bunch of little leaves and some rather large leaves. It illustrated the importance of forgiveness. All those wounds detracted from Edwin’s ability to do well in his relationship with Greer, his fiancée. Fortunately for Edwin his good friend and mentor would not let Edwin stay insisting on his rights to hate his uncle and continue to be bitter. No mileage in resentments, bitterness and unforgiveness. It will only make you physically, mentally and emotionally unwell.
Edwin’s unforgiveness with his uncle also affected his relationship with Greer. It is like a contagious virus making people ill. Unresolved matters in one relationship creates hot buttons easily agitated in another relationship.
When we choose to forgive, we do one of the noblest and most divine acts humans can do. It brings healing to our bodies, minds and souls. Harboring hard feelings and unforgiveness is a lose, lose way to live life. Yes, unforgiveness can feel unfair and many times it is unfair. The payoff is much greater than keeping a sense of injustice. Your life will be happier, your health will be greater and your relationships will be closer.
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